Like other guys here, I am a 23 year old who sucks at romantic relationships. In fact, I have never been in a romantic relationship. It seems like every girl I talk to and get along with, always reveal that they have a boyfriend. It feels almost pointless to talk to girls, because I know they will drop those dreadful words, "my boyfriend" sooner or later.Where do you meet the girls?I'd suggest you to go to a bar, club or another place where people go to meet other people (singles).Just be friends. U never know if those girls have cute friends to introduce to uthat큦 life...by statistics there are more girls than boys so normally everyone has the chance to get one...Quote:Originally Posted by I love JgirlsLike other guys here, I am a 23 year old who sucks at romantic relationships. In fact, I have never been in a romantic relationship. It seems like every girl I talk to and get along with, always reveal that they have a boyfriend. It feels almost pointless to talk to girls, because I know they will drop those dreadful words, "my boyfriend" sooner or later.Picture this: a guy asks you out. You tell him you already have a boyfriend. He says, "Oh, okay," and walks away. How interested in you was he really? And how committed do you think he would have been to you? If you became a couple but then you got in a car wreck and your face was disfigured, do you think he'd stay by your side? Or would he dump you at the first sight of a cute chick walking down the street?When a girl lets you know she has a boyfriend, don't take it so hard. "Hey, that's cool," you can say, "but do you still want to get something to eat/drink? I really would like to get to know you better." Show her that your interested in her regardless of her marital/dating status. Boyfriends aren't forever: they're either dumped or they morph into husbands. Don't assume that hers is husband material. You may be the husband material she's been searching for, and she may only too gladly dump her current boyfriend if she feels that you care about her more than just for her looks.23 years old...oh my.My piece of advice is,(and it seems you are looking for advice), get laid and don't look for a relationship until you've dipped your stick quite a few times. The last thing you want is a relationship based on sex. It will cloud your judgement I guarantee it. Sex and relationships go together nicely but you have to be able to seperate the two. A relationship should be a friendship where sex becomes a natural progression. If the friendship and compatablility don't exist you have to be able to break it off regardless of how good or available the sex is.If you go to a bar or a club don't drink alcohol, not because drinking is evil but because if you are on "the hunt" drinking can become a crutch. You don't want to be unable to talk to and hit on girls successfully only if your drunk, bad idea that is. Don't say you are looking for a girlfriend, let them know you are looking to get laid and thats it. The timing on when to reveal this comes with practice but if your dishonest about it you could hurt someone. Be willing to accept failure, not every girl is going to find you attractive or be interested even if they do. Don't give up, girls are looking to get laid, they enjoy sex. Dress nicely, girls dress up when they are on "the hunt", they respect you for going to a little extra trouble to look nice for them. Give yourself time to develop some skills in this area, if you want to be good at something it requires work and effort.Everybody has issues and I have my share of them but don't just lay down and die, fight for what you want. I can't tell you how to have a successful relationship but I have had my share of them. It isn't something to be rushed into.Good Luck!..... No No .... Not all girls have boyfriends, but they might have a girlfriend.... ... by the way i m single, but absolutly not looking for romantic relationship... (too boring).... need much more spices and exrtem limits (if any...) on a relationship.... But ... (yes there is a but...)Quote:Originally Posted by Ceewan23 years old...oh my.My piece of advice is,(and it seems you are looking for advice), get laid and don't look for a relationship until you've dipped your stick quite a few times. The last thing you want is a relationship based on sex. It will cloud your judgement I guarantee it. Sex and relationships go together nicely but you have to be able to seperate the two. A relationship should be a friendship where sex becomes a natural progression. If the friendship and compatablility don't exist you have to be able to break it off regardless of how good or available the sex is.If you go to a bar or a club don't drink alcohol, not because drinking is evil but because if you are on "the hunt" drinking can become a crutch. You don't want to be unable to talk to and hit on girls successfully only if your drunk, bad idea that is. Don't say you are looking for a girlfriend, let them know you are looking to get laid and thats it. The timing on when to reveal this comes with practice but if your dishonest about it you could hurt someone. Be willing to accept failure, not every girl is going to find you attractive or be interested even if they do. Don't give up, girls are looking to get laid, they enjoy sex. Dress nicely, girls dress up when they are on "the hunt", they respect you for going to a little extra trouble to look nice for them. Give yourself time to develop some skills in this area, if you want to be good at something it requires work and effort.Everybody has issues and I have my share of them but don't just lay down and die, fight for what you want. I can't tell you how to have a successful relationship but I have had my share of them. It isn't something to be rushed into.Good Luck!I totally endorse this advice. I would stress that you should make an attempt to look as good as you can. Exercise, be friendly, and don't be intimidated by their beauty. Women are just human beings, and basically want the same things you do. They don't like/respect guys who are intimidated by them, so act casually.I wouldn't go to bars, though. Loud guys get all the attention. Try book stores, movie theaters, or other non-romantic places. The women there are a higher quality.Quote:Originally Posted by denaoco72The women there are a higher quality.You: Hey, what book you reading?Girl: Excuse me?You: Hi, my name's James.Girl: *ignores you*You: .......... so ......... wanna fuck?And that's how you get kicked out of a bookstore.You know, though, I can relate to the OP's frustrations. I do wish that we lived in a society where we could cut through all the bullshit and just ask the girl right from the start: "I think you're attractive, I would like to know more about you solely on the basis of your good looks, and oh yeah I really want to fuck. You game?" Reminds me of this classic scene I once saw in a story. (See attached picture.)No girl wants to feel she is a piece of meat at a supermarket that any guy can choose and take to the register. This doesn't mean that a woman doesn't want to be desired, they do, they all do. But just like men they want to feel special. So you can come up to a girl in a bookstore and ask her if she wants to fuck...just not in those words. This is where style and finesse comes into play. I am not claiming to be an expert on the matter, I can't pick up just any girl and have sex with her. But I can pick up women and have. I went through my "player" phase and enjoyed it. The reason I suggest bars and clubs is they are "happy hunting grounds" for both sexes. For some it can take awhile to get a feel for telling if a woman is interested in them or a waste of time and effort. It is a game men and women have played for centuries, in one form or another. Some have a natural talent for this game but like any other game you may play in life, practice and perserverance has its' rewards.