Ok guys, i voice chatted to this Japan girl living in Jpan. She's pretty and a very beautiful voice she has. She's really nice and i could see my self dating her cause she accepted my personality( i'm a shy guy by the way)Thing is she wants to move to America and says that Japan is Boring . Meanwhile i like japan and i like studying about it. So that was kind of sad she thinks Japan is boring. Anyways, i guess she's just saying that. I'm sure she doesn't mean she hates it to death.Well the problem though, is that I'm not a typical American rich or well off guy. First of all im not white, second I'm living with my parents cause i haven't been able to find a job, and third even when i do get a job and move out.... i can probably just get a room!! at most. Apartments are like 900 dollars and up. With my 9 to 5 job( low wage), i don't think i can even afford that. Or is it possible? Please share your knowledge. Also, if i have here here in CAlifornia and we get married..she still can't work because she still doesn't have sufficient English skills. She's just a beginner. Any tips or ideas? How should i approach this?By the way i'm still not gonna marry her yet. Maybe in 4 years or something when i have moneywhere'd you meet her? i want a japanese brideIn a Chat/Voice chat( Skype). It's rare to meet Japanese in therethat want to move to the USA and marry you . But it has happened to me about 3 times. The first 2 had some mental illnesses so i knew i should stay away from them. But this new one is normal and really nice.Well it helps also if you speak Japanese. My bad japanese is sufficient enough. She still doesn't know English that well. She's just a beginner.Just curious, but how does "not being white" hinder you? If she likes you she likes you... Besides I bet Asian girls like black dudes better than us crazy crackers.I don't know about USA rules on migration/marriage visas but I presume it is as difficult or more so than Australia.1. There is probably a visa application fee just to see if she gets approval.2. To work, I am sure she would need a 'green card'.3. You say you have no work, how are you going to support her if she has no job?4. There is an airfare just to go there.5. Unless she is rich and wants to fork out all the money for it I suggest you forget it, or regret it - for the rest of your life.If you don't speak Japanese well, and she speaks English even worse, it's really quite difficult for me to see this working out -- because it means you two hardly know one another, and that's never a good thing going into a long-time relationship, never mind thoughts of marriage.When a girl can't speak the language and already wants to marry you, to me it screams two things. Back in the day, the order would have been flip-flopped, but nowadays it seems like the woman is usually either ...#1. after USA citizenship. Never mind all that visa nonsense people were talking about. US law has a security clause for mothers of natural-born American citizens that states that the government will not remove the mother from her child without serious cause. Being an illegal alien (unlike in Japan!!) usually isn't enough to cut it in most cases. It's why so many people cross the border from Latin America when the mother is already expecting. It's so that even if they get caught, if she goes into labor on American soil, bam: her kid's a natural-born citizen of the US of A.It's easy to imagine the girl asking you to fuck her and you saying "YES PLEASE! :D" And in that moment of stupidity, she gets pregnant and she dumps you. Kid is born 9 months later, kid's an American citizen, she gets to stay because she's the kid's mom, and you have to pay child support because she can prove (quite easily nowadays, yay genetics!) that you're the father.#2. "She" is not really a Japanese girl at all. "She" is an older adult pedophile looking to meet up with you and [NOT GOOD! X_X].Let's not forget that Japanese women have hidden agendas. She WILL expect you to father a child VERY soon after getting married. Hope you enjoy 'real adulthood', not having the luxury of beating off in your room to cartoons and having to deal with the mood swings that only a Japanese woman can bring up.I know nearly a dozen couples in Canada, the USA, England and Australia where the man (from said country) married a Japanese girl. They were each EXPECTED (with one exception) to help her pump out a child within the first year of marriage. All but two of those dozen are now in effectively sexless marriages and are miserable because they brought their girlfriend/wife back to their home country. Good luck on ya mate, I dodged that bullet twice already and realized that Japanese women are the worst for forcibly settling you down from anything but family. This may come off as harsh, but living with a wife is a LOT different than living in mommy and daddy's house...Quote:Originally Posted by SakunyuushaIf you don't speak Japanese well, and she speaks English even worse, it's really quite difficult for me to see this working out -- because it means you two hardly know one another, and that's never a good thing going into a long-time relationship, never mind thoughts of marriage.When a girl can't speak the language and already wants to marry you, to me it screams two things. Back in the day, the order would have been flip-flopped, but nowadays it seems like the woman is usually either ...#1. after USA citizenship. Never mind all that visa nonsense people were talking about. US law has a security clause for mothers of natural-born American citizens that states that the government will not remove the mother from her child without serious cause. Being an illegal alien (unlike in Japan!!) usually isn't enough to cut it in most cases. It's why so many people cross the border from Latin America when the mother is already expecting. It's so that even if they get caught, if she goes into labor on American soil, bam: her kid's a natural-born citizen of the US of A.It's easy to imagine the girl asking you to fuck her and you saying "YES PLEASE! :D" And in that moment of stupidity, she gets pregnant and she dumps you. Kid is born 9 months later, kid's an American citizen, she gets to stay because she's the kid's mom, and you have to pay child support because she can prove (quite easily nowadays, yay genetics!) that you're the father.#2. "She" is not really a Japanese girl at all. "She" is an older adult pedophile looking to meet up with you and [NOT GOOD! X_X].Actually , i speak good Japanese, just not perfect. But we talked alot already ( in Japanese) and we had great conversation about many things. And yes she may be looking for American citizenship, but doesn't mean she will be a mean woman. She just wants to move out of Japan, and what's wrong with that? At least she doesn't want to be here illegally.But i won't f*ck her because I'm poor, i don't have a house or nothing yet. I know i can't have a family. So i'm already aware of this and i'm sure this will come up in our later discussions.About the pedophile thing. Well we already talked in voice, she's a woman 30 year old. My same age. And if it was a pedophile, i would just not approach her. I'd only approach if I saw she was the same woman from the picture she showed me. Anyways, so you guys think I have no chance of success?"within the first year of marriage"Well, I'm not marrying her yet. If we get married it would be 4 or 5 years from now.So, anyone know what the process is for bringing a Japanese lady to live to the USA?Would i have to marry her first when she's here visiting?