So I have been in a relationship for about 8 months now with this girl.. she also likes anime and manga and japanese culture but she isn't what you would call an "otaku" but she was fully aware of my interest in ero stuff and gravure when we got into this relationship...Now I know what you guys are gonna say... Well its wrong ur looking at other women.... mainly the stuff I would watch was Young idols because I have kind of a sister complex... and as far as H-anime goes... I truly only enjoy the art that comes with the hentai It does nothing sexually for me...So yes I play ero games... and of course this irks her.... Recently I've been playing 3D Custom Shoujo and I don't even play the H stuff or dress them up all slutty I just like to create different characters in it.. and every freakin time she gets JEALOUS and then we get into these big arguements..... I find it hard to quit these things but I love her dearly and want to spend the rest of my life with her.... But i tell her and I do this stuff IN FRONT OF her and i talk about it wtih her but it always ends the same with her being jealous....What do you guys suggest I do? please treat the topic nicely because I am truly a good guy.Well, the problem can be solved very easily: speak with her.I also have a girlfriend for 9 months now and the first day I told her, here in Spain, not of my gravure fandom, but also that I have porn on my pc, but it doesn큧 affect our relationship because it큦 only a fantasy, I really love her and that is what must be the most important thing for her. Just one thing: I큩e never seen porn in front of her!!!I know I큟 from Spain and you큥e from JP and maybe your gf doesn큧 thinks the same, but just talk to her and state all the things clearly...Quote:Originally Posted by Onichan81Well, the problem can be solved very easily: spank her.Fixed your post for you!Interesting solution Rhinosaur. In my own way I have to agree.Before you read my reply any further Fazeshot you should know that taking relationship advice from me is not a good idea. I have failed in more relationships than you can shake a stick at. In sooth I would be better served in telling someone how to get rid of a girl than keeping one. I am not saying I can't get a girl but it never lasts long,(and I am actually okay with that at the moment).First off girls never tell you exactly what is wrong. Personally I call it lying but they really hate when you tell them that. I am not saying they are unfamiliar with the term honesty but when it comes to expressing themselves they expect you to be a mind reader. So if they say they are pissed at one thing, you can bet your cookies they are pissed off about something else.In this particular instance my guess would be she could give a crap about the games and the porn. What she hates is them getting the attention from you that she desires to have. There is no middle ground here. If you want to play games or whatever you have to do it when she is not around. I am not saying give into her either, once she knows she can push you around it will become a habit and she will lose respect for you. If you really like her and want her to stick around this is probably the best way to do it. If she is around all the damn time,(I really hate the clingy or needy ones), then find her a hobby or something away from home so you will have some time to indulge yourself.Honestly the problem probably isn't gravure or h anime, usually women will make a big deal out of this type of thing when there's some underlying problem in the relationship.Quote:Originally Posted by ShanksYYZHonestly the problem probably isn't gravure or h anime, usually women will make a big deal out of this type of thing when there's some underlying problem in the relationship.oi oi not quite true =) there are girls who would play such games with their bf, and it wouldn`t make them even a bit jelaous hahaI guess she shouldn`t worry about you playing such games at all, in the end, it`s her you go in bed with,not some 2D chick, right?Quote:Originally Posted by ane-sanoi oi not quite true =) there are girls who would play such games with their bf, and it wouldn`t make them even a bit jelaous hahaI guess she shouldn`t worry about you playing such games at all, in the end, it`s her you go in bed with,not some 2D chick, right?So agree with you. But yeah according to everyone here. The best way to solve this is just to talk to her. Not much to be said. :|IMHO if the fighting is going on now, this short of a way into the relationship, it will be worse 1 year, 3 years from now if you DO stick it out.There is more to it than she is letting on, and you guys need to get it out in the open NOW. If she won't talk about it do this....Quit playing the games and looking at the stuff. In under a month I bet she will pick apart something else you are doing that she "doesn't approve of". Then you will have it, time to kick her to the curb and find someone who can accept you the way you are, and not try to play the bullshit games of trying to change you.You need to set boundries. DO not accept anything that crosses those. You will be a stronger individual because of it.It's time to choose, take the blue pill and forgot everything about the 2D and ero world and the truth about how awesome it is, you will wake up with your girl and both of you are happy, or take the red pill and dump she.Serious now, I agree with Bud, it will probably get worse some day, I think is hard to find a girl who fully accept our hobby or "way of life", any time.When you have a girlfriend why would you want to play some silly computer game instead of playing with her. So buy several sexy outfits, some coloured wigs, a set of breast enhancement pads and bras and dress her up and create all kinds of different characters.